July 2, 2010:  No more figuring it out!

Sometimes your panties get in such a wad you just can’t sort it all out.  Guess what?  You don’t have too!  All you have to do is find a better feeling.  That’s all.  Remember all those feelings of being on this endless hamster wheel?  Monkey mind?  No more.  Just find a better feeling.

Now I’m from the old school where therapists always directed you to find out the why’s.  When did this start?  Why do you feel that way?   But Abraham (see side panel) says focusing attention on the problem does not bring a solution, it only gives more energy to the problem.  The more you go backwards in time to “look” at something the more energy you give it and the more you activate it in your now.

I’m not here to argue a point and I do believe there is a place for history but more and more I’m just wanting to feel better when I don’t and I don’t want to sort it out.  Feeling so good for awhile has left me really impatient when I don’t feel as good as I know I could that I don’t really want to put one ounce more into feeling crappy and so today I just reached for a better feeling thought.   Period.

A good way to do this is to go through the alphabet beginning with “a” and think of words that begin with “a” that feel good to you.  For me it would be allowing…acceptance… Abraham.  “B” would be basking…breathing…beautiful.   “C” could include create…calm…cinnamon roll.   And on and on.  I’ve done this at night when I’m falling asleep and I did it today driving home when I wasn’t feeling as good as I wanted to feel.

Saying the words slowly and getting the feeling of the words is the trick.  Allow those feelings to resonate in your body.  Meditation is another way to feel better fast if you are not handling heavy equipment.  Meditation is just an absense of thought so you can get your erasers out and breathe and focus on your breath or a sound or a word like “quiet” or “calm” and quiet, quiet, quiet until you feel more relaxed.

We CAN change the way we feel by focusing but most of us are lazy, sloppy focusers and we just haven’t learned how.  Not to worry.  It’s never too late to begin.  It does take practice but it also does get easier.   Remember, if you feel frustrated with trying to focus…you can continue to feel shitty and even feel justified…or you can focus.  It’s a choice.  Abraham says we are so free we can choose bondage.

Nelson Mandela freed himself while in prison doing the same thing.

Happy July 4th.  Love, Connie

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